scottweiland640 Scott Weiland’s former wife, and the mother of his two children, Noah, 15, and Lucy, 13, Mary Forsberg Weiland wrote an open letter to Rolling Stone about his death. Excerpts from the letter appear below.

“December 3rd, 2015 is not the day Scott Weiland died. It is the official day the public will use to mourn him, and it was the last day he could be propped up in front of a microphone for the financial benefit or enjoyment of others. The outpouring of condolences and prayers offered to our children, Noah and Lucy, has been overwhelming, appreciated and even comforting. But the truth is, like so many other kids, they lost their father years ago. What they truly lost on December 3rd was hope.

We don’t want to downplay Scott’s amazing talent, presence or his ability to light up any stage with brilliant electricity. So many people have been gracious enough to praise his gift. The music is here to stay. But at some point, someone needs to step up and point out that yes, this will happen again – because as a society we almost encourage it…

…Many of these artists have children. Children with tears in their eyes, experiencing panic because their cries go unheard. You might ask, “How were we to know? We read that he loved spending time with his children and that he’d been drug-free for years!” In reality, what you didn’t want to acknowledge was a paranoid man who couldn’t remember his own lyrics and who was only photographed with his children a handful of times in 15 years of fatherhood. I’ve always wanted to share more than anyone was comfortable with. When writing a book years ago, it pained me to sometimes gloss over so much grief and struggle, but I did what I thought was best for Noah and Lucy. I knew they would one day see and feel everything that I’d been trying to shield them from, and that they’d eventually be brave enough to say, “That mess was our father. We loved him, but a deep-rooted mix of love and disappointment made up the majority of our relationship with him…”

…When Scott did move on to another relationship, I hoped it would inspire him to grow. I had often encouraged him to date a “normal” girl, a woman who was also a mother, someone who had the energy that I no longer had to love him. Instead, when he remarried, the children were replaced. They were not invited to his wedding; child support checks often never arrived. Our once sweet Catholic boy refused to watch the kids participate in Christmas Eve plays because he was now an atheist. They have never set foot into his house, and they can’t remember the last time they saw him on a Father’s Day. I don’t share this with you to cast judgment, I do so because you most likely know at least one child in the same shoes. If you do, please acknowledge them and their experience. Offer to accompany them to the father-daughter dance, or teach them to throw a football. Even the bravest girl or boy will refrain from asking for something like that; they may be ashamed, or not want to inconvenience you. Just offer – or even insist if you have to…

…Noah and Lucy never sought perfection from their dad. They just kept hoping for a little effort. If you’re a parent not giving your best effort, all anyone asks is that you try just a little harder and don’t give up. Progress, not perfection, is what your children are praying for. Our hope for Scott has died, but there is still hope for others. Let’s choose to make this the first time we don’t glorify this tragedy with talk of rock and roll and the demons that, by the way, don’t have to come with it. Skip the depressing T-shirt with 1967-2015 on it – use the money to take a kid to a ballgame or out for ice cream.”

Read Mary Forsberg Weiland’s entire letter at Rolling Stone.

Weiland passed away in his sleep on December 3rd on a tour stop in Bloomington, Minnesota.


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  • J J on

    How could anyone believe her. Scott is dead and she speaks publicly. There is ALWAYS two sides to every story. Reading other replies on here, I can’t believe it – people believe her. Stupid is surely forever. His ex is a chicken s— b—–. Very, very disrespectful to Scott and flat out chicken / spineless in her timing of going public with this b.s. information. It’s obvious she doesn’t care about the kids as her kids now can only believe what b.s. she put in there heads. Sad is right, sad a piece of s—, c—, has to make a time of mourning worse. A special place down below is reserved for people like her.

    • DR Is Live on

      So just so I can get this straight, the woman is the liar and doesn’t care about her kids….the same woman who raised said kids. And you’re supporting the habitual drug addict who hasn’t been right since probably 1995 or earlier and fucked things up with not one…but two fantastic bands who despite their success just couldn’t deal with his behavior any longer? Did I get that right JJ? You’re quite the troll Sir.

    • Harry Taint on

      JJ, load your bowl and relax.

  • Mark Ellis on

    A good letter and a poignant message. I was never into STP because they didn’t have the goth/fantasy/historical aspect that draws me to hard rock and metal. I’m old enough to have seen Jim Morrison live, and Weiland always struck me as an accident waiting to happen.

  • Ray Gillen on

    I dunno, although this makes me very sad for the kids I`m not sure if this is the time to call him out as a deadbeat dad no matter how tactful she might have been.

  • Harry Taint on

    Bart Simpson? I prefer Ned Flanders to be honest. Hidy Ho Neighbor!

  • J J on

    Looks like DR is another media lead corporate sheep who believe what an alive person posts. Last I checked a dead person can’t speak. Who’s the troll punk….? Like I said earlier stupid is forever. Keep believing 1/2 truths.

    • Dana on

      Now, now, let’s not fight.

      While I will agree that is not nice to speak ill of the dead, personally, I do not believe this was Forsberg Weiland’s intent.

      I think what she was trying to say, is that Scott’s death should not be glamorized, nor mourned. Rather, it should be used as a cruel lesson to educate those on the horrors of addiction. Displaying how it not only damages the individual taking the drugs, but causes major rippling effects to the children, extended family and friends. Everyone is hurt and traumatized by such behavior, and using the rock star lifestyle as an excuse for destructive actions, is not conducive to solving the issue.

      While it’s true, at the end of the day, the decision to get clean and to remain sober rested solely on Weiland’s shoulders, I can understand her frustration with the music industry. It seems she felt the they did nothing to help, nor protect her ex husband. But instead, only cared about exploiting him for their best interests. Putting an addict out on the road is akin to allowing an alcoholic to work in a liquor store. However, blaming the fans was wrong, and I believe it was simply a knee jerk reaction to her anger, in general.

      It is easy to blame the messenger, but I think she was being honest with her experience of living with an addict and how it effected her children, who were innocent victims. I believe her hope in sharing her background is that it might help others going forward to open their eyes to the tragedy of addiction.


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