scottweiland640 Scott Weiland’s former wife, and the mother of his two children, Noah, 15, and Lucy, 13, Mary Forsberg Weiland wrote an open letter to Rolling Stone about his death. Excerpts from the letter appear below.

“December 3rd, 2015 is not the day Scott Weiland died. It is the official day the public will use to mourn him, and it was the last day he could be propped up in front of a microphone for the financial benefit or enjoyment of others. The outpouring of condolences and prayers offered to our children, Noah and Lucy, has been overwhelming, appreciated and even comforting. But the truth is, like so many other kids, they lost their father years ago. What they truly lost on December 3rd was hope.

We don’t want to downplay Scott’s amazing talent, presence or his ability to light up any stage with brilliant electricity. So many people have been gracious enough to praise his gift. The music is here to stay. But at some point, someone needs to step up and point out that yes, this will happen again – because as a society we almost encourage it…

…Many of these artists have children. Children with tears in their eyes, experiencing panic because their cries go unheard. You might ask, “How were we to know? We read that he loved spending time with his children and that he’d been drug-free for years!” In reality, what you didn’t want to acknowledge was a paranoid man who couldn’t remember his own lyrics and who was only photographed with his children a handful of times in 15 years of fatherhood. I’ve always wanted to share more than anyone was comfortable with. When writing a book years ago, it pained me to sometimes gloss over so much grief and struggle, but I did what I thought was best for Noah and Lucy. I knew they would one day see and feel everything that I’d been trying to shield them from, and that they’d eventually be brave enough to say, “That mess was our father. We loved him, but a deep-rooted mix of love and disappointment made up the majority of our relationship with him…”

…When Scott did move on to another relationship, I hoped it would inspire him to grow. I had often encouraged him to date a “normal” girl, a woman who was also a mother, someone who had the energy that I no longer had to love him. Instead, when he remarried, the children were replaced. They were not invited to his wedding; child support checks often never arrived. Our once sweet Catholic boy refused to watch the kids participate in Christmas Eve plays because he was now an atheist. They have never set foot into his house, and they can’t remember the last time they saw him on a Father’s Day. I don’t share this with you to cast judgment, I do so because you most likely know at least one child in the same shoes. If you do, please acknowledge them and their experience. Offer to accompany them to the father-daughter dance, or teach them to throw a football. Even the bravest girl or boy will refrain from asking for something like that; they may be ashamed, or not want to inconvenience you. Just offer – or even insist if you have to…

…Noah and Lucy never sought perfection from their dad. They just kept hoping for a little effort. If you’re a parent not giving your best effort, all anyone asks is that you try just a little harder and don’t give up. Progress, not perfection, is what your children are praying for. Our hope for Scott has died, but there is still hope for others. Let’s choose to make this the first time we don’t glorify this tragedy with talk of rock and roll and the demons that, by the way, don’t have to come with it. Skip the depressing T-shirt with 1967-2015 on it – use the money to take a kid to a ballgame or out for ice cream.”

Read Mary Forsberg Weiland’s entire letter at Rolling Stone.

Weiland passed away in his sleep on December 3rd on a tour stop in Bloomington, Minnesota.


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  • J J on

    Hairy, bowl is loaded and needs to be dumped in DR’s lap.

    • DR Is Live on

      Glad I struck a nerve. Although to quote Dave Mustaine it gives me a migraine headache sinking down to your level. You and I are nothing more than fans. We can say we have an investment in the music or the band, but we’re just fans. We’re owed nothing. His first wife on the other hand had a massive emotional investment in the man. She bore his children. She witnessed his addictive behavior and his mental state of mind. She watched him change from a incredible performer/creator to nothing more than a useless junkie. She’s the one who had to explain to their children what was happening with their father and why he’s not coming around for them. If she wants to speak on it, it’s more than her right and you’re owed nothing because all you did was buy some CD’s or maybe a concert ticket or a t-shirt that I think you might still be wearing.

  • Mark Ellis on

    Weiland is “Comfortably Numb” in practice.

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