As previously reported, former Megadeth bassist Dave Ellefson was guest on Eddie’s Sirius/XM show, Trunk Nation With Eddie Trunk, on October 19th, where he discussed his recent sex scandal that resulted in his firing from the band.
Blabbermouth.net has posted further highlights from that discussion which can be read below.
Just days after sexually tinged messages and explicit video footage involving the bassist and a woman that is not his wife were posted on Twitter. Shortly after explicit video of him emerged online, Ellefson released a statement on Instagram denying all social media chatter that he “groomed” an underage fan. He also filed a report with the police department in Scottsdale, Arizona alleging unlawful distribution of sexually explicit images of him by unknown offenders. In the report, Ellefson admitted that he had been exchanging sexual text messages with a Dutch teenager, who captured a video of several of their virtual “masturbating encounters” without his consent and shared them with friends. (According to bassist, the woman was 19 at the time of their first virtual sexual encounter.) Ellefson, who lives in Scottsdale, first became aware of the video on May 9th, when the claim David Ellefson of Megadeth is a pedophile appeared on Instagram.
Ellefson told Eddie he “didn’t even know what” the word “grooming” was, adding that he “had no idea” about the meaning of the term experts use to refer to the actions that sexual abusers take to get close to and gain the trust of those they are interested in. “And any allegations of anything being illegal [are false],” he said. “There was nothing. And that’s why I immediately hired a criminal lawyer. I went right to the police department. And just for the record, the bad guy doesn’t go to the police department, okay? So, just to be clear. The guy who didn’t do anything wrong, he goes to the police department. That’s why I went to the police department and filed a police report and let them deal with it.
“I think there was a big fear of — there’s always this talk of cancel culture and all this stuff,” he continued. “And I was, like, ‘Listen, that was not me.’ And I had every right to stand up against that and defend myself against it. And I just turned that over to the lawyers and police department and let them deal with it, and they did.”
When Eddie brought up the point that the only apparent “illegality” in this case lied with the person who actually leaked the above-mentioned video, Ellefson said: “A hundred percent. That’s why I didn’t hire a civil lawyer to sue people for a million bucks. I hired a criminal lawyer, and what they do is prosecute to put people in jail. ‘Cause those were the crimes. You can’t just go do s–t like that — put stuff out there, content — and not have a penalty. That is the crime. And I think people just think they can — and not everybody; I’m not saying all people — but there is a faction that they just think that that could be just done as a joke and for fun, and it can’t. Of course, it’s the Internet, so people live in foreign countries; there’s all this stuff. That’s why the best thing, I think, is to, first of all, just get away from those platforms because that is a breeding ground for that society to do that.”
When asked if there are still ongoing legal proceedings in the case, Ellefson said, “It’s been resolved. We took the steps necessary, walked through that process, which was necessary to do, and that’s all landed and, as of now, that’s fine.”
David, who studied for a year at Concordia Lutheran Seminary in St. Louis nearly a decade ago, also wanted to address one specific “misconception” about him that has been repeatedly raised in the months since his masturbation videos were posted online. He said, “There’s a misconception that I’m a pastor. I am not a pastor. I did a year of seminary, and they made it real clear, ‘If you are gonna continue at seminary, you need to quit Megadeth,’ so I quit seminary to be in Megadeth. And I remember telling my mom that, when she was still alive — God rest her soul. I said, ‘Hey, I withdrew out of seminary,’ in good standing, to continue being in Megadeth. And she was actually very disappointed. She was, like, ‘You know what? Megadeth is holding you back. That’s too bad. You should have stayed in seminary.’ Turns out maybe I should have listened to my mom; I don’t know. [Laughs] Of course, mom wants the best for you.”
“Who knows? Whatever,” he continued. “I’m a rock and roller, man. I’m a founding member of Megadeth. It’s who I am. It’s what I do. It’s part of my life. It’s part of my existence. So I have no regrets about any of that. But, I think that was a misconception. People started throwing that around. And so I’ve never been an ordained pastor. Yes. I did explore that world for a time.”
He went on to say that there is a perception that people of faith must set a higher standard of how they live and how they treat others. “It’s almost like you’re this entity that’s floating up toward the heavens: ‘Oh, he’s such a wonderful man. He’s a man of faith. He’s got his family. And then this happens.’ It’s, like, ‘What the hell is this?’
“I mean, look, admittedly I’ve sort of trained the public to think that I’m one of the more well-behaved rock stars out there, and for the most part I have been,” he continued. “But at the same time, and this isn’t to claim anything other than just, oops, s00t happens. That is what it is.”
“In the season that I was away from Megadeth, in the 2000s, I got involved in other things in church, and raising my family, and blah blah blah, these things, and so by nature, I kind of became more of a suburban homebody — the dad guy,” he added. “And then I went back to Megadeth in 2010. And the thing is to try to reconcile that you’re not one guy at home and another guy on the road, that you’re the same guy. And I think for anybody who spent any time on the road — whether you’re a rock star, a traveling salesman or whoever you may be — that is the challenge, and it’s a real challenge, to keep your life in order when every day your toothbrush is in a new zip code.”
In related news, Ellefson’s new band, The Lucid, just released their self titled, debut album on October 15th. To read more details about this release, and to stream their songs, Damned and Maggot Winds, please click here.
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When your married or in a committed relationship , you have to be responsible for your conduct , be an adult and control your impulses, whoever leaked the videos and lied about him being a pedophile were obviously wrong and hopefully there were consequences, but ellefson cheated on his wife , what he did was wrong and it would be nice to hear him say I F__ked up , I’m sorry –
You can’t pass it off as shit happens … should he have been let go from the band … I obviously don’t know how mustaine and ellefson got along , it’s not surprising he got let go … I hope he can keep his family together and continue to have his career ~
Hi Robert,
I completely agree, but most musicians, especially rock stars, are in a perpetual state of arrested development and spoiled beyond belief. So, when one take those factors into account, as well as others (drug and alcohol abuse, people never saying “no” to you, etc.), expecting one to be moral, loyal and mature, is an exercise in futility and frustration (see Tommy Lee as the perfect example).
I tend to think that most women who marry musicians, are aware that infidelity tends to come with the territory. However, somehow they falsely convince themselves that they will be the one who is different, and sadly, they all find out they are not, even famous beauties like Heather Locklear and Christie Brinkley.
I am not making excuses for their pitiful behavior, but it is an extreme lifestyle. You take a man, put him out on the road where is isolated from his wife, and possibly children, for long periods of time. Then add partying and groupies to the mix, and I am not sure how many men could resist, even the most well intentioned. If I were to venture a guess, I would say, at least 90% would succumb.
Again, I am not making excuses for Ellefson, or any musician, but I understand this is not a “normal” lifestyle. Even men who work 9-5 jobs will cheat, what can one expect from musicians, who are deified by the public? But, there is no question, he should be far more contrite, and embarrassed, by his behavior.
Dana,
A few of these musicians have decided to bring their wives along for the ride. This causes issues however. I believe Geoff Tate brought his wife along to every show and also had a say in management decisions which started frictions within that band, just to give an example.
I have a difficult time believing that there are still a line of “groupies” (hate that term) waiting in line to get with 50+ y/old men but I could be mistaken. It could be that some may say “Hey , I’m the drummer in such and such band, 2 million copies sold etc. etc.” and a few may go for it. I really don’t think so but again I could be wrong.
I remember seeing Fred Durst from Limp Bizkit at the Guitar Center in my town posing with some young females during a promotional visit. During a photo-op Fred was getting real friendly with his hands. One of the young women pulled away and Fred told her “Do you know who I am?” “Do you know who I am?” .
I suppose these musicians feel entitled to any/everything just because their well known in the music world.
Jeff,
The “you know who I am?” line is so gross and obnoxious. I remember when Reese Witherspoon got pulled over, and was caught on camera whining that pathetic phrase, and then to cover for her sorry self, she added “I am an American” Oh brother.
I think it is very difficult to stay grounded when one is in the public eye, even these Z level “reality stars” have attitudes.
Professional athletes should also be in that perpetually arrested development conversation , I get how hard it can be to say no to temptation when you live in this world , how easy it is to rationalize bad behavior , I would say there are plenty of men and women in these 2 careers who do the right thing and are loyal responsible partners, 8husbands and wives – the question for me is will Ellefson learn anything from this ? Hopefully he does ~
Robert,
I believe that most famous, and semi famous, people are in a perpetual state of arrested development with a side helping of narcissism.
As for Ellefson, only time will tell if he has gleaned anything from his indiscretion. Either he will will be gun shy and avoid additional controversy or he will learn to become a better sneak.
Jeff , great reply , I have to agree with you , young girls are not impressed with aging rock stars at all , unless.. and I hate saying this but real money and lots of it will attract women it doesn’t matter who you are or what you do whether you play guitar used to throw the football etc… as for the original point fidelity , for wealthy people it’s very easy to cheat if your so inclined, and with money finding a willing partner is also pretty damn easy ~
Last comment from me on this post –
Personally I’m a glass half full kind of guy , I choose to believe in love,friendship and loyalty and commitment, and I want to believe most people are decent even popular successful musicians , yes people make mistakes , and should not be condemned or overly stigmatized because of them , but ellefson needs to publicly own up before he can move on from this , what he did is not unforgivable, but unfortunately for him his family and megadeth it’s not unforgettable
Your last line is SPOT ON.
Have you seen it?…lol…you want to expel that from your mind as fast as possible…