Earlier this month, Lita Ford made an appearance on the Veterans In Politics TV show on to discuss her work as an activist for parental alienation and her efforts to get through to her own children, whom she was recently able to see for the first time in nearly 10 years.

Speaking about her custody arrangement with her ex-husband, Lita said (as transcribed by, By the time our divorce was final and everything was said and done, it was such a joke that it didn’t matter what I got on paper. There was no way I was gonna be in those boys’ lives. They were such a mess by the time I left and my ex-husband left that it just didn’t matter. I just needed to walk away from everything and regroup and come back with Plan B. The big problem for me was I couldn’t find them after hiring four or five private investigators and them being out of the country in a Carribbean island. I really didn’t have any United States… The Hague Convention, the Hague treaty was working against me with them being in a Caribbean island. And when they did come back to the United States, it took me nine years to track them down and find out that they were living in Tennessee. If somebody wants to fall below the radar, they can.”

Asked what justification the courts used to deny her custody of her two children, Lita said: “They said I was not taking the medication that they prescribed for me that was absolutely ridiculous. It was just an excuse. I did everything in my power that they asked me to do. I did everything. They had nothing on me. And my ex-husband was just lying, he was just making up stuff as we went along. It was just insane. And as he made stuff up, there was no proof that I did all these things he said I did. It was just absolutely crazy. Because I really was a great mom. I put everything into being a mom. I stopped my musical career. I focused on nothing but my boys. I homeschooled my boys living on that deserted island. I mean, I spent all day every day with these kids. I had stacks of books. And then we would go fishing and we would cook dinner. We had a great, great relationship. So for them to turn around and say, ‘Mom, you did this and you did that.’ Like, ‘Wait a minute. You guys are dreaming. You guys are being brainwashed by your dad.’ And the attorneys are just feeding off of that.”

Ford, who launched the Parental Alienation Awareness Facebook page a few years ago, said that she was finally able to get in touch with her sons and speak to them, although the meeting didn’t go as well as she had hoped.

“I just contacted them for the first time in almost 10 years,” she said. “And I was able to serve my ex-husband with papers saying that I want to see my son, my 17-year-old son. Because my older son now, being 21, there really isn’t much I can do. So I was able to go in and see my kids for maybe 10 minutes in a mediation. But my ex-husband had turned them against me so badly that when I went into the mediation, all they did was accuse me of things and get angry at me and point their finger at me. It was horrible — it was absolutely horrible — because he’s still sticking to the same crap stories.”

Back in 2015, Gillette explained that the court-ordered custody arrangement was in his sons’ best interest.

In July 2015, James Gillette, the older of the two Ford-Gillette sons, released a statement to Metal Sludge in which he called his mother “a child abuser. She was violent, threatening, and tried to make my brother and me hate our dad. Her attempts at parental alienation were constant and never-ending. When we didn’t agree with her, she would become livid and out of control. We told child services, the sheriff’s department, and many court-appointed professionals that our mother was crazy, violent, and we were afraid she would someday kill us in a fit of rage.”

He added, “We have not been kidnapped. We live with our dad and have every right to. Thankfully we never have to see our mother again and we have the legal paperwork to prove it.

Unfortunately, my mother has never accepted any responsibility for her actions and continues to blame anyone and everyone all while publicly playing the victim.”

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  • robert davenport on

    I cant really comment about litas situation from reading this post , other than I really do feel bad for her , but mostly I feel awful for her children – as a child of divorce myself I can say this- when people have their hearts broken and or feel betrayed / feel wronged – they can not only lose their minds , but their dignity , and rational thoughts go out the window , and many times the last thing they consider is the children – who always suffer greatly because they are not emotionally developed enough to know what the hell is going on –

    • Dana on

      Yes, I was also a child of divorce, and it is always the children who suffer when the split is acrimonious. It can leave permanent psychological scarring, that may never go away.

      As per the comments of the eldest son, whether accurate or not, display that they may negative images of women. Going forward, they may find it difficult to have intimate, trusting relationships with females, as a result of their strained relationship with their mother.

    • Taskerofpuppets on

      Poignant words and truth. What adds to all this is they’ll likely spend the rest of their adult lives trying to sort it out or ignoring it completely. All the while effecting every part of their daily lives, every choice, every reaction. The cause and effect of variable attachment and what it begat’s is mind-numbingly tragic along with the abuse that accompanies it. So much of it avoidable. I empathize.

      I hope these boys get away from both of them and try to find their own path and figure it our for themselves.

      I grew up in a family where the parent’s should have divorced but instead had three children, 4 bankruptcies, lived in 2 countries over 35 years and then decided they should get divorced! LOL! It’s laughable and so sad and unnecessary. Thanks for sharing this D. I seem to remember that when she was on TMS that she was int he midst of this hellstorm. \MM/

    • Dana on

      You’re welcome.

      Other the U.S.A., what country/ies did you reside in?

      D 🙂

    • Taskerofpuppets on

      Only the home of the greatest rock trio in the Land of Milk and Honey, Canada, eh! ;o]=

    • Dana on

      LOL!! I will take Bryan Adams, ducking. 😉

    • Doug R. on

      The greatest Rock trio in the Land of Milk and Honey, Triumph? 😉

    • Taskerofpuppets on

      Touche’…or maybe Anvil, not! ;o]

    • Taskerofpuppets on

      Meant to have inserted RUSH in my comment. Land of Milk & Honey=RUSH

    • Doug R. on

      My top 5 Canadian bands/artists
      5. Corey Hart (just kidding) 😉
      5. BTO!
      4. Bryan Adams
      3. Loverboy
      2. Triumph
      1. Rush

  • genesraccoonwig on

    Robert / Dana – thank you for sharing your stories – raising kids is the hardest and most rewarding thing a person can do even in the best of circumstances. Parents need to “teach their children well” (thanks CSNY) above all else.

  • robert davenport on

    we can go on and about the negative effects of divorce on kids and the ramifications of stupid adult decisions- this post shows how this continues to happen whether your middle class, rich or poor- and I am shocked it is continuing as much as it is- the information has been out there for many years and should almost be common knowledge – that you have to behave with your kids best interest in mind when you divorce period.- because if you dont your kids will pay a heavy heavy price – but yet it still goes on every day in this country …… why do people continue to ignore this ????
    also , if your a soon to be divorced parent man or woman and you want to be involved in your kids life , you should never be kept from your kids !!! ever!! kids need both their parents involved as they grow up – because as Dana pointed out estrangement from a parent can cause emotional problems that can last a lifetime- I hope Lita can form a bond with her kids -I’m pulling for her –

    • Dana on

      Excellent post, Robert, thank you.

  • robert davenport on


    Thanks for posting this story it hit me deeper than I thought it would- I called my son and told him I love him very much today –

    • Dana on

      Awww, you’re welcome. 🙂

  • elliot goldberg on

    a heartbreaking story indeed, but thanks for posting this dana. let’s hope some sort of lasting re-connection happens with lita and her kids.

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